The first date seems like an amazing topic to discuss as it usually leads to awkward moments due to the anxiety of meeting your potential life-partner. Some of us may have gone through countless first dates before stumbling upon the person you wanted to spend forever with. And some just clique right away on their first date. It is such an important point in everyone’s life and of course, you want to look good and impress your date. But that is not the reason to feel anxious.
First dates are often the get-to-know period that does not require a lot of commitment. Think of it as a job interview. You won’t lose anything if you’re not selected and there are plenty of vacancies anywhere else in the world. Yes, it is a delicate game that needs to be played properly, but most importantly, you have to enjoy it and have fun. To have a great time on your first date, here are some tips and suggestions on what you can do on your first date:
- Choose a place where you are both comfortable.
The first date does not necessarily have to be a candlelight dinner at an expensive luxury restaurant with early reservation. Just like any other meetings, you should choose a place where you would be comfortable the most and ask if your date is okay with the venue of your choice. Even if it’s just a teh tarik session at your favourite mamak stall or anywhere else of your preferences, a place where both of you are comfortable should just be perfect. It’s how you spend the moment that matters.
- Spend a couple of hours relaxing and having fun before going to the date.
This one is really important if you want to show your cheerful side during the date. You totally do not want to be in a bad mood and spread the negativity all over the place when being around your partner. Before the date, stretch, drink water, chill, watch a funny movie and laugh a lot so your mind is calm, free from stress and bad thoughts. It will help you show up relaxed and be in a positive mood.
- Honesty is always the best policy.
Most people are afraid to be themselves and put up a front in order to impress their date. Well, it would only make things worse. Honesty is the best policy, not only when you’re on a date but you should always be honest and straightforward by being yourself. Let your date know if you have any bad habits or flaws. Being perfect is not human and having flaws may be attractive to some. Give it a try.
- Ask positive emotional questions.
Try making the conversation exciting with your date by throwing positive emotional questions instead of basic repetitive questions. Avoid asking the basic stuff like; “Where are you from?” and “What are you doing now?” Instead, involve emotions in your question like: “What’s the best meal you’ve ever eaten?” or “Where is the place you really desired to travel to?” Give it a try and you might spend more time conversing with your date than you imagined.
- Do something that you would enjoy.
Stop trying too hard to please your date. The first date should be a moment where you do things that you yourself like and comfortable doing. If there’s a movie that you’ve been dying to see with a partner, a new restaurant that you crave to try, or an exhibition that you want to visit, a date is a great excuse to get yourself there. And if you are comfortable and having fun, it will make you a better date as you’re being yourself. That’s your most attractive the part.